( Someone please grab me my shower curtain cape....I have a rat race to run!)
See that fantastic super woman and her side kick above...this is what we strive to be. On Halloween my sister Sam got to live out that dream. However, being Superwoman is usually less glamorous for most us today. It more feels like a rat race where you barely know if you brushed your teeth in the morning. It also takes a lot more than some dollar store glitter glasses and a wand to really pull off that whole superwoman thing! I'm going to tell you how I plan to earn my cape in the real world.
Women of today...Do any of you just feel like you have to do it all, perfectly, all the time, and in the end it seems like it’s never quite enough? Yeah, I have that feeling too. Why is this? Because I feel my life is in a constant state of what I call “Rush” . I rush to get ready for work, I rush to work, I rush home, I rush to make dinner, I rush to get laundry and dishes done ( okay okay sometimes they sit there), and then I rush to work on my dream job, it ends up being way late, I haven’t accomplished all I’ve wanted, I’m so tired, then the alarm is going off, I hit snooze 3 too many times and I’m doing it all over again! This is all why I am judging myself for not accomplishing more. The clock hits Reflection:30 and I’m telling myself to wait-a-freakin-minute! You can’t be Martha Stewart, Cezar Millon, Suzie Home Maker, wife of the year, and crazy successful business owner. You have to find balance; and also others have to adjust to your new found balance. Unless someone gives me a cape, a magical power, and a dishwasher I need to stop being so hard on myself.
I am not the perfect wife, my husband feels neglected and that I care about my side job more than him, the last thing I want. Sometimes I resent him for resenting me. Other times I blame myself for taking him for granted bc I feel that he’s stuck with me, so if I give more attention to my business than him, he will understand and deal with me. Maybe that’s being too honest, but this is the reality of dream building, and the need to find a happy balance. I just keep telling myself, “someday he will understand”, But Rome wasn’t built in a day and my business won’t be built that way either. So in the meantime I need to work on finding quality time to spend with my husband, so when my version of Rome is built he will still be around to live their with me.
Can we talk about you people with kids….kids???!!! How do you do it???!!! Can I be real honest with you all right now. If I added a kid to this crazy rush reality show I am in you might find me at the psychiatric center, although it would make for good reality TV, I’m thinking it would be a little bit of a Debby downer for me. On a positive note it would give me lots of opportunity to talk about Oils and help some folks, but I doubt they’d find me credible in this environment . See why I don’t have child yet! How could I possibly be responsible for a human I have to feed, get dressed, drop off at the sitters, pick up from the sitters, take to tumbling class and put to bed? Where do you find the time for kids, a day job and your own goals and dreams?? ( Yes I’m selfish and I refuse to give up my own goals)! I commend you all who have mastered this, but do you ever just sit ( I know , you don’t sit) and wonder what it would be like to not be rushing all the time? To have time for not only your kids, but yourself. To be able to manage both without that feeling of rush?
Man that would be the life!
Sometimes the day flies by and I have to think about what I enjoyed. This moment right here, the moment of reflection, is why I am working my day job and my dream job. My dream job involves network marketing . I felt some of you cringe as you read that and trust me I understand. About 3 years ago when I would have read that I would have ran for the hill tops, locked myself in a bomb shelter, and waited until someone told me “the walkers are gone, its safe to come out” ( you all love the walking dead reference and you know it ). But I’ve come to love “those” people and I will tell you why.
Those “network marketers” are entrepreneurs. People are going to get angry as I compare the two. But truly to be a network marketer you have to really put yourself out there! You have to Network! Share a product you love, even if you didn’t invent it, and yes work like it's a business. These people are committed, consistent, positive, and they come to a happy place where they really don’t care about what other people think! They are on a pursuit of happiness and making their own path, an unconventional one at that. These people had enough. They were sick of the “rush” and decided they would actually change. Remember folks, if nothing changes, then nothing changes.
Here’s another thing about networking marketing. You actually want to work, share, talk about your product, and you don’t resent the hours you put in! Tell me the last time you left work and thought “ I want to talk more about work”. That’s right you don’t. But when you really enjoy what your talking about, you almost can't turn it off. I would also like to point out, this network marketing gig, it's one of the very few jobs in the world where you get to make your own schedule. Remember all that rushing I was talking about. You don’t have to rush, but you do have to plan. The largest misconception of network marketing is that people don’t work. You certainly work, sometimes more than 40 hours a week. But you dictate when, where and how you work. In the health and wellness industry of network marketing you have a responsibility to educate, follow up, offer assistance, encourage and yes you “werk, werk , werk, werk"!
The network marketing field is increasing, so I will warn you, be smart. Know the company you are getting involved with and assess its stability. Is it a “get rich quick” or can you grow over time. Can you do it for the long haul? Do you believe in the product and what you are talking about? If so, then get prepared to be that “network marketer” .
I Want to end the RUSH.
The reason for this girl deciding she would admit to the job title of “network marketer”. I believe that eventually the product I represent and educate about will change the world. It will change people's lives. It will change the environment. I find no shame in promoting that. In return for promoting the product I obtain a schedule designed by me! If I choose to have a child I will have the choice to stay home! I can get ready for the day on my time, enjoy a cup of coffee before my work begins. Have a load of laundry done before noon and the dishes done after dinner. Maybe my husband will come to terms with why I chose to pursue a new career after spending 40,000 on college and spending countless nights rushing from work to do my dream job, avoiding laundry and dishes and not being the perfect wife for last several months. In this world where both husband and wife work 40 + hours a week, have pets to care for, kids to care for and homes to maintain you have to find a way to live the life where you don’t have to “rush”. When I sit down at the end of the day I would like my daily reflection to include what I enjoyed most about the day. Maybe I will have a little more time to think, to plan, to actually get things accomplished. It will be less about all the things I have to do or should do, but more about ME, MY FAMILY and how I can better serve people. Truly be present and attentive.
If you’ve read this and feel this same way I encourage you to follow your gut, take chances, don’t listen to anyone but yourself. You and only you know what is best for you. Not everyone has to be “Superwoman” rushing to do it all while blindly flying through the day. You can simple choose to be the best you, which is always a happy you. Find what makes you Happy and Live it! Also where glitter glasses and a cape if you want to!